One of the marketing messages I use to communicate with my clients the Myrland Marketing Moment. As the name implies, it is a very short marketing message that only takes a moment to read. I typically post these all across social media.
One Myrland Marketing Moment I shared the other day was:
“If you want to be successful in social media, don’t hit and run. Relationships take time.”
What do I mean by hit and run?
Social media are simply virtual, interactive, conversational, educational tools we have available to us to network and develop relationships. I think most will agree that relationships are important to our business. Without them, we give our clients no reason to buy from us a first time, a second time, to recommend us, to enjoy doing business with us, or to even remember us once our service has been delivered. In other words, it makes business much more difficult than it should be.
Whether you are developing relationships with potential clients virtually (online) or actually (in person), there are 5 ideas I’d like you to keep in mind.
1. Relationships Take Time
How often do you hear stories about two people meeting, hitting it off in the first moments, deciding they want to get married that day and sharing everything with one another immediately?
Exactly, I don’t either! It doesn’t happen that way in real life. It might in the movies, but you and I aren’t actors, we’re real-life trusted advisors to our clients.
Be realistic about developing relationships. Don’t Tweet a few times, post one or two updates on your Facebook wall, write one blog post, record one podcast, or update once or twice on LinkedIn and expect it to bear fruit. Be patient.
2. Be Strategic
It’s very easy to dive into social media head first. Someone presents a tool to you and you think it sounds interesting. You have a few minutes, so you go ahead and give it a try. Next thing you know, you’ve made a few friends and followers, but you realize this is not only taking a great deal of your time, but you aren’t interacting with anyone that even resembles a potential client or referral source, much less someone from whom you can learn more about your area of expertise.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t dip your toe into social media if you are curious. By all means, go right ahead. Just adjust your expectations of ROI accordingly. Only when you become strategic about your marketing activity should you allow yourself to have expectations of reasonable outcomes.
Be strategic. Develop a brief marketing plan that addresses goals, target clients, messages, competition, communication with these audiences, etc. Let this drive your social media activity, as well as the rest of your marketing activity
3. You Can’t Start Too Early
The other day on Twitter, a lawyer I follow shared his thought that recent law school graduates should not be networking to develop business. He thought they should be taking baby steps by learning how to practice law first.
I’m here to tell you I have a lot more faith in lawyers than to think they can’t handle learning how to practice law and talk to people at the same time. Lawyers can not only handle it but, because relationships take time (see point #1 above), they must do it if they expect to grow their practice to the point where they are thriving at some point in their career.
If you haven’t started networking, talking to people, and developing relationships, do it today. Be consistent, be regular, and be strategic.
4. Learn How To Listen
I know you’ve read this statement a million times, but it’s critically important to your practice, your business, and every relationship in your life.
Pretty strong statement, huh? Yes, it is, but it’s true. How many times do you walk away from a conversation with a person feeling a complete connection to them, feeling that you could tell them anything and they would understand where you are coming from? You know what I mean…that uncommon chemistry that causes you to think you can’t wait to spend time with them again.
There are many factors that go in to feeling that way about a relationship, but one that is undeniable is that:
- This person took the time to listen to you with every sense, and every cell in their body focused on you.
- They weren’t forming their next sentence while you were talking.
- They weren’t looking at their phone, the clock, or the person who walked in the room behind you.
- They asked you questions about you.
- They followed up on statements you made, not letting them hang without clarification or understanding.
These are all very important components of being a good listener.
When using social media, spend time listening and observing first so that you understand the tone, usage, and needs of your followers (Twitter), friends (Facebook), contacts (LinkedIn and others) and fans (Facebook). As you spend time listening on social media, just as in face-to-face conversations, you gain a much deeper understanding of what is on the minds of those with whom you are interested in talking. Understanding helps us serve others’ needs better.
5. Don’t Wait For Someone Else To Do It For You
It’s easy to get busy with management, learning a new phone system, figuring out that dreaded CRM software, billing, hiring an assistant, etc. Before you know it, you realize you don’t feel very good about your practice because you’ve spent most of your time on the mechanics of running your office, and not enough on developing relationships with clients and potential clients.
You’re frustrated because you know you didn’t go to law school to network, but to be the smartest, wisest lawyer you can possibly be for your clients. Marketing is a distraction, much less this business of social media and social networking.
The most important part of this point is that being the smartest, wisest lawyer is also part of marketing. Everything you do that your clients see is actually marketing what you do. It is sending a message to your clients about what it’s like to do business with you.
But there’s more. All these new and old tools that are waiting for you to help you communicate and build relationships with clients, and to help you build your practices for the future aren’t going away. You should strategically take advantage of them. In increasing numbers, the world is becoming more connected via social media. Your clients and potential clients are finding their way to these tools, and you should, too.
No one else is going to do this for you. You can’t expect your marketing professional, your marketing consultant, your assistant or your partner to develop your relationships for you.
I learned long ago that it is my responsibility to drive my career and my actions. I can’t sit around and wait for someone else to help me make the connections I need to become successful in my career. Sure, I can ask for help to make a connection, but that still starts with my taking the initiative to ask for that help. If there’s someone I want to meet, it’s up to me to decide that, to figure out how to approach them, then to go through the process to make that happen. I am in the driver’s seat.
The next time you are frustrated because social media just aren’t bearing fruit, or not developing the relationships you expected, ask yourself if you have truly put the amount of time needed into social media to understand and use it strategically. No one else is going to do it for you. They can show you how, but they can’t develop the bond, or the chemistry, that helps clients want to do business with you.
Don’t be a hit and run in social media. Relationships take time. Put enough of you into the equation to expect enough of others.
Nancy Myrland is a Marketing, Business Development, Content, Social & Digital Media Speaker, Trainer & Advisor, helping lawyers and legal marketers grow by integrating all marketing disciplines in order to maximize business development efforts to grow their practices. She is a frequent LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook for Business trainer, as well as a content marketing specialist. She helps lawyers, law firms, and legal marketers learn and implement business development efforts that are more relevant to their current and potential clients. She also helps lead law firms through their online social media strategy when dealing with high-stakes, visible cases. As an early and constant adopter of social and digital media and technology, she also helps firms with blogging, podcasts, video marketing, voice marketing, flash briefings, and livestreaming.
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